Our marriage is sinking! Throw us a lifeline!
My passion for helping couples came from my own marriage journey. I know first hand the pain of marital trauma and disconnection from your spouse. As a licensed social worker I use my training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to teach couples how to be emotionally intimate. For couples who have experienced marital trauma, I have found Brainspotting Trauma Therapy to be very effective. This provides my clients with a unique blend of marriage counseling and trauma recovery.
No matter what you or your relationship have been through there is a way to create a loving and nurturing partnership that lasts a lifetime.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Many relationships start with the romantic "high" of new love. Years of juggling work, children, and stress can often lead to a slow erosion of intimacy. You stop having date nights, stop making love, and before you know it, stop being able to share with one another. EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. Research studies show that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and 90% show significant improvement when receiving counseling using EFT.
Infidelity Trauma Recovery
Infidelity is a betrayal and trauma that becomes stored in your neural pathways. You may find yourself getting triggered by people, places and things that remind you of the affair. This is the body’s way of protecting itself from further trauma. Brainspotting is a brain-based tool that taps into and harnesses the body’s natural self-scanning, self-healing ability. When a Brainspot is stimulated, the deep brain appears to reflexively signal the therapist that the source of the problem has been found. brainspotting.com
Marriage S.O.S. Intensives
I had begged my friend to get help in their marriage for many years. I would always hear the same thing, “We don’t have the time.” Now they will never have the time. They are divorced after being married almost 20 years with 4 children. Couples slowly grow apart and stop having intimacy. The days turn into years of unhappiness. Marriage intensives give you an opportunity to take a break from the stress of everyday life. A 2-day Marriage Intensive is equivalent to 3 months of weekly counseling. I don’t want you to end up like my friend.
THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE
I realized that I simply didn’t know myself. The truth is that I had been a serial relationship survivor for most of my adult life. I did some deep soul searching to understand what role I was playing in my marriage.
Why did I attract my ex-husband and why was he attracted to me?
The importance of being comfortable in my own skin was one of the many things I learned as part of this search. I also learned that I feared being alone and had clung to unhealthy relationships. I was so used to twisting myself into a pretzel for somebody else that I lost who I was.
When I remarried, I had learned to become so comfortable with myself, with being alone that I had told God “I am having a great time, but I’m ready to find somebody to share these experiences with.” In surprisingly short time, God answered me and I met my second husband and have been married since 2007. While we have a close and intimate marriage today, it has not been easy. Being a parent and raising our children in a blended family has been one thing that has taken the most work in my life. Shortly after my husband and I graduated from our own couples counseling, we were hit with a life altering car accident which traumatized the entire family. We both survived the accident, however, the new skills we had learned were put to the test. We are forever grateful to our counselor who acted as our lifeline until we could be that for each other.
I am licensed in Florida, Colorado and Maryland with over 20 years experience.